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Jun. 9th, 2002 10:22 pmso I had a fucked up conversation at the club this weekend. I was talking to someone about living alone and being able to do whatever I wanted.. (like walk around naked and stuff) and it degenerated into a conversation about stalkers... I had said that the only way to see in my window is to stand in the middle of the street with binoculars and if someone wants to go that far to actually maybe see me walk around my apartment naked, more power to them because I really don't care. And the person I was talking to said that I wouldn't feel that way if I had ever been stalked. So I told them that I have been stalked 5 times now. And they seemed surprised by this.
Why? Because I am not a slender petite pixy of a girl? It left me feeling kind of disturbed by the concepts people have of stalker behavior.
I don't expect anyone to automatically think I have been stalked (unless they have actually been around when I was being stalked), but I also don't expect people to be *surprised* to find out that I do.
Maybe they watch too many movies.
wtf.
Why? Because I am not a slender petite pixy of a girl? It left me feeling kind of disturbed by the concepts people have of stalker behavior.
I don't expect anyone to automatically think I have been stalked (unless they have actually been around when I was being stalked), but I also don't expect people to be *surprised* to find out that I do.
Maybe they watch too many movies.
wtf.
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Date: 2002-06-10 06:18 pm (UTC)They would stand outside my windows or call me on the phone.
Those were the first two. I am pretty careful about it really. You would have to be exteremely surrepticious to not be noticed following me around now. But as long as people aren't in my face about it, I am ok. the last time someone followed me I ended up confronting them in person about it. (no worries I was in a totally safe environment, and he was obviously not going to hurt me.) It turned out i was just the most intersting thing in his environment. It wasn't like he was stalking me everywhere, just socially (like a social drinker *hee Hee*). So I made friends with him instead. He stopped following me after that.
Not the normal way I deal with people stalking me by any means. But the way that worked best at the time.