great love

[staxxy]

tonight I was ruminating on what qualifies a romance as a "great love". I am not talking about soul mates or the big romantic stories (although they often are).

What got me started on this line of thought: I watched a few Bogey/Bacall films, and then watched Frida.

And you can't tell the story of either Lauren Bacall or Humphrey Bogart without telling the story of the other one as well.

Just as you can not tell the story of Frida Kahlo without telling the story of Diego Rivera.

I am really blessed that I live in one of those stories. You can not tell my story without telling the story of Spydrman, or tell his story without mine.

I am even more blessed that this is true with other couples in my life. I am surrounded by and immersed in great love. It is inspiring and comforting and real. And I am very grateful for it. Thank you.

Comments

[grace-batmonkey.livejournal.com]

I love you dearly, but you are making the ghost of Frida Kahlo cry ;]

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

oh damn. my bad spelling. crap!!

thanks!! I will fix that!!

[dangerous-beans.livejournal.com]

At the moment, you can tell my story seperately from my lover's story. That's simply due to not having spent years together, yet. *grin* Hooray for being in love, and better still just loving.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

new love has great potential for being great love.

the entertwining of our story started many years before we actually became a couple. I will try to get that story posted soon. I have been promising it for many years.

[dangerous-beans.livejournal.com]

Good. Please do.

Chris was actually my birthday present last year. I keep telling the friend who introduced us she's hard-up to beat that present. Seems strange, not in a bad way, that I have a specific date as This Is When I Met And Knew He Existed, and that we haven't actually known each other for years as I get in the habit of thinking.

I have to remind myself that no, no he didn't actually know me when I did [this]. And the occasional gusty sigh of relief _that_ brings! Whew! *laughs*

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

hahahahahaha. The story of Spydrman and I is quite the saga. It can't really be summed up in a paragraph or two, it takes pages. ;)

[dangerous-beans.livejournal.com]

*grin* I'm lookin' forward to that.

I laid the bare bones. There is and will be more story and to me, that's pretty cool.

I've either succeeded in being somewhat subtle about how much glee I am about Chris (...yeah, about as subtle as running into a brick wall. I make _me_ want to go into sugar-shock), or friends have saintly patience/tolerance and haven't gagged me yet.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

while Spydrman and I are not sugary display people, we do not mind it in others. Or, at least, *I* don't.

[dangerous-beans.livejournal.com]

*nods* Oh I agree. I like when people are obviously, or even not-obviously in love and loving. Like I said earlier I'm about as subtle and retiring as a brick-wall, so it seems to bemuse people when I get shy about certain things.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

heh.

[danaid-luv.livejournal.com]

Huh. I skimmed, and then stopped to read more carefully a second time. You may be right. It doesn't make me feel like less of an individual to have my name linked to T's.... *smiles*

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

being married should never change how much of an individual you are. If it does, something is seriously wrong. That is not to say that marriage shouldn't change who you are, having a lot of support should help strengthen your ability to become more of yourself than you were before it. ;)

[theblackdeer.livejournal.com]

Aw.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

like, um, oh, YOU GUYS for example.

You're awake. I will call.

[dyslexia.livejournal.com]

Hepburn and Tracy.

Those are the two I think of when I think of "Great Love".

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

that is a good one. :) there are several.

Taylor and Burton are also on that list. So are Sonny and Cher.

They may have divorced, but they remained super close regardless. So I think that qualifies them as great love.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

For that matter, there is also Queen Elizabeth the II and Prince Phillip.

Franklin and Eleanor Roosevelt.

Nancy and Ron Reagan.

Napoleon and Josephine.

Siouxsie and Budgie.

Deborah Harry and Chris Stein.

:D there are SO many.