today's easy lesson for many of you -

[staxxy]

Sucking it up when things are bad is not always the best answer. Sometimes it is better to say "no, this is not okay with me, I deserve *this* instead".

For a few of you, that may mean that you need a new situation. For a few of you that means communicating more effectively when things are upsetting you.

and for a few of you, that means listening to those in our life when they say "this is bothering me and I want to talk about it" without taking it as an attack.

Take a deep breath and remember that we all have needs, and they may not always be what those around us think they are. But very few people can read minds, so if it's important to you, you are going to have to TELL THEM.

And sucking it up nearly always means resentment in the long run, and we all know *that* is not good for anyone or any situation.

**this message brought to you by the large number of you who are currently speaking of having these sorts of issues in your own lives.

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Comments

[savannarama.livejournal.com]

My life began changing for the better when I decided that stewing was poisonous for me.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

Mine too. :)

Do you care if I unscreen this comment?

just a reminder baby.

[staxxy.livejournal.com]

the important things never are. But the relief that we get at the end of the complexity and pain is well worth it. And the people in our lives hurt when we do. Remember that. Suffering through is not good for anyone involved.